Buying the best car….

This is a story about a friend and I. My friend is single, technical engineer, living and working in Amsterdam. I am married and we have three kids to take care of. Together with my wife we run a Brasilian webshop and im- and export to and from Brasil and some European countries.

Some years ago this friend called me to ask my advice. He wanted to buy a new car and wanted to know my opinion about it. At that time I drove an Toyota Avensis Verso and was very content with it. A great car, already 10 years old, it drove very well and in yearly costs for service very cheap. It always started and never left me alone. I was a big fan for Toyota-cars because of all these advantages an it was the best choice I ever made. So I told him about my best choice and we hung up.

TOYOTAAvensisVerso-648_7My friend went to the local garage and bought himselfe the same car. And indeed on his way back to his home, in the center of Amsterdam, he felt comfortable and at ease in his new car. Once he got home he was searching for a parking space and noticed that that was not easy. Some available places were way to small and driving around in the little streets the car was anoying him more and more. At a certain point he found a suitable place, but getting the car into the right position he had to drive back and forward a couple of times to avoid collisions to the neigbouring cars. Every time he drove backwards and looked over his shoulder or in the mirror he saw the extra 5 chairs in the back of the car. And the more often he looked the more he realized he did not need all these space. He was singly, he onle needed laptop for his work and sometimes a view prints roled as a tube.

MINI_Cooper_SD_JCW_Package-5After a while he became dissapointed on his choice and went back to the garage where he bought his car.The garage accepted the car back and sold him a new car, more suitable to his situation. He came back driving a Mini Cooper. He parked his new car in a second, had loads of space for his laptop and roles of paper. It was easy to handle in the narrow streets. “This was the absolute best choice a man could made for a car!”, he told me on the telephone. He continued his enthousiastic story about the best car a man could have and convinced me to swao my car as well. He garanteed me that his Mini Cooper would beat my Toyota Avensis Verso.

So I did and went to our garage and swapped my car for a Mini Cooper. Happy and proud I drove home. And indeed the car drove splendid, easy to handle and very nice to be seen with it, as well. I promissed my kids to take them with the car soon as they were just as enthousiastic as I was. The next day I needed to go to Germany for business and decided to take them with me. That morning I placed the three kids in the back seat, but it didn’t fit. Well not that easily anyway! When I arrived at my appointment my supplier gave me some boxes with try-outs to sell in The Netherlands. I opened theback of my car, but there was not enough space. I closed the deal, but went home without the trials. At home I immidiatiely swapped cars again. I went back to my old car and decided not to listen to what is supposed to be “the best” for someone else….?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

In the world of IT we are used to talk about “Best Practices”, and yes…. in this example-story there should be a consultant giving advice not to swap cars because they do not fit the situation. But that is not the point. The point is: “What is BEST for one, can be the WORSE for someone else”. Calling a practice “Best Practice” gives false assumptions on the practice and puts a customer in a difficult situation. Because when the offered “best practice” does not seem to fit, we make him say “I do not want the BEST”!

Think about it……. Forget about BEST PRACTICES, and search for the BEST that fits the customer!!

F*ck de Vrijheid van Meningsuiting….

Onlangs stond op de muren van het Paleis op de Dam in Amsterdam “Fuck de Koning”. Dit vermoedelijk als steun aan een ​​medelander die dezelfde woorden “Fuck de Koning, Fuck de Koningin, Fuck Het Koningshuis” vorig jaar riep, toen hij werd gearresteerd. De advocaat kondigde aan dat zijn cliënt werd vervolgd voor het beledigen van de Koning. Er ontstaat een discussie over of het toegestaan ​is ​om zoiets te zeggen. Men zegt dat artikel 111 “Het beledigen van de koning” in strijd is met de “Vrijheid van meningsuiting”.

Vlak hiervoor was er een aanval op een Mohammed-cartoons-expositie in Amerika en werd bijgewoond door Geert Wilders. Hij heeft er zijn levenswerk van gemaakt om te ‘vechten’ tegen de Islam. Hij laat geen mogelijkheid onbenut om zijn Anti-Islam-verhaal te verspreiden. Hij  gaat hier vaak over een grens onder het motto van “Vrijheid van meningsuiting”. Hij vindt de Islam de vijand van onze vrijheid. Enkele van zijn uitspraken zijn:

Dan is er de harteloze aanval op mensen die werkzaam zijn bij Charlie Hebdo. Laat ik voorop stellen dat ik het oneens ben met elke schietpartij. Mensen neerschieten is geen antwoord op welke actie dan ook. Direct na de aanslag begonnen mensen te roepen “Je suis Charlie”, om daarmee steun aan de slachtoffers en de satirische krant Charlie Hebdo te tonen. Mijn antwoord: “Je ne suis pas Charlie”. Ik ben nogmaals tegen de schietpartij, maar ik ben ook tegen de vrijheid van meningsuiting zoals deze (Charlie Hebdo en vele anderen) wordt gebruikt…

Ik geloof in vrijheid, ik streef naar vrijheid, elke dag weer. Ik denk dat “Vrijheid” de ultieme manier van leven is. Ik geloof dat vrijheid het beste in iedereen naar boven zal brengen. Vrijheid in het dagelijkse leven levert de beste keuzes. Vrijheid in werk resulteert in de beste beslissingen. Vrijheid zal resulteren in geluk, maar dit alles alleen …………… als het komt met verantwoordelijkheden!!!

Vrijheid betekent niet dat mensen het recht hebben om anderen te beledigen. Het geeft mensen niet het recht om anderen pijn te doen. Het beledigen van mensen, groepen of geloven zijn geen tekenen van vrijheid, maar zijn tekenen van onderdrukking.


  • als wij anderen beledigen, stellen wij onze manier van leven boven die van de ander;
  • als wij iemands geloof beledigen, stellen wij ons eigen geloof hoger dan die ander.

Vrijheid komt met verantwoordelijkheden, gebruik deze verstandig!!!

Laat me afsluiten met een uitspraak van Abraham Lincoln:

Those who deny freedom to others deserve it not for themselves.

Wall Quotes - Abraham Lincoln - Those who deny freedom to others deserve it not for themselves